Anonymous asked: What are your thoughts on arranged marriages? Would you ever agree to one?
That’s an interesting question. My answer to that is simple: NO. I would never ever ever ever ever consider one and here’s why:
When you marry someone, at least the way I view marriage, you are making a commitment to carry out the rest of your life with that person by your side. You’re committing to building a future together. This is the person who’ll be your date to everything that requires a date. This is the person you’ll be sleeping with every night. This is the person whose thoughts, feelings, goals and wishes you’ll consider in every major decision you make. And so on and so forth….
Essentially, I want to both love and like the person that I marry—and there’s no guarantee I’ll get either of those if someone else is in charge of this decision.
I’m not even going to try and defend the idea of arranged marriage because I’m sure it’s worked out fine for some (maybe even most) people who have done it and there are plenty of people in the world who think it’s a good idea or a legitimate way of life. I’m unabashedly throwing out my strong, unilateral opinion that I don’t care what they think or who it’s worked for— to me, it just sounds like the most awful, horrifying concept. EVER. Jeez, I get anxious just thinking about it.
Kudos to asking a question that elicited such a strong emotional reaction that I felt compelled to answer immediately. Now I feel bad for those other questions that have been sitting in my inbox for days, weeks…even months?
